You Are Worth Standing in the Altar With

Disclaimer: This is a letter written in a Christian perspective. If you are a not a Christian and you do not agree, that’s expected. A lot of people will get offended and I’ll understand. But we, Christians, are called to be the salt and light of this world. Having said so, the Bible should be the final authority in what we believe and what we stand up for.

We can agree to disagree on one thing. But let me just quote what Rick Warren once said:

“Our culture has accepted two huge lies: The first is that if you disagree with someone’s lifestyle, you must fear them or hate them. The second is that to love someone means you agree with everything they believe or do. Both are nonsense. You don’t have to compromise convictions to be compassionate.”

With that said . . .


I am not bashing anyone or a certain individual. This post is not an attack against a person’s character. I believe we have our free will and it’s up to us on how we would want to live our lives.

However, I only disagree with the principle/ lifestyle that our society is accepting—that just because everyone’s doing it, then that means it’s right. It’s one way to say that the norms justify the sin. But it doesn’t and it never will.

Well, these are the lies that our culture now tells us:

  • “Malalaman mo lang ang tunay na ugali ng tao kapag nakatira kayo sa iisang bubong. Kaya dapat live-in muna bago magpakasal.”

It’s true that it’s one thing to know a person deeply in a relationship and it’s a totally different thing to actually live with them and see all of their flaws, bad habits, beliefs, accustomed culture, failures and bad decisions, etc. However, most people have used this as an excuse to justify their fear of commitment. People want to get all the benefits of marriage but they don’t want to be married.

People are so absorbed in wanting “assurance” that they treat other people as a “dry run” to see whether or not they will consider marriage. But that kind of mindset boils down on one thing: SELFISHNESS. An ugly picture of ‘love’ that is conditional—one that basically says:

If you meet all my standards, then I’ll marry you.

If you make me feel loved, then I’ll marry you.

If you serve me, then I’ll marry you.

If you make me happy and you meet all my needs, then I’ll marry you.

If you don’t make bad decisions, then I’ll marry you.

If you earn enough, then I’ll marry you.

If you don’t hurt my feelings, then I’ll marry you.

If you give me sex, then I’ll marry you.

It’s another way of saying: “Let’s be emotionally and physically intimate to one another, but when the time comes that you no longer satisfy me and I’m not happy with the relationship, let’s just call it quits. I’ll find someone else who can give me better than what you offered. Someone who can ‘respect me more’, someone who is not as annoying as you, someone who can make me happy, and someone who’s better in bed—someone who can finally complete me. Anyway, this is just a trial and error. Well, it failed. I don’t care if I hurt you because I need to find my satisfaction, so I’ll move on and try again . . .” and again and again.

And this is sad. Truth is, we don’t have to go around hurting other people. We don’t have to suck all the good in one person and when all that’s left is their worst, we’ll leave because we’re no longer satisfied.

  • “Their Living Arrangement Is None Of Our Business”

Fact: In particular, other people’s business is not our business. So maybe we should let them do whatever they want to do. And if that’s their decision, who am I to stop them?


TRUTH: This generation’s business is OUR business. We live in a dying world full of compromises—where sin is accepted just because everyone is doing it. However, as Christians, we are called to be the salt and light of the earth. And everytime, we are apathetic—worse, if we support this kind of principle, the enemy is rejoicing.

We should speak up and stand on our conviction. We need to be firm on our faith and live according to what we believe. We need to preach the gospel in our campus, work place, in our family, to our friends—and in any platform possible. Because if we do not, this generation will die fast, with a blink of an eye. And we will be held responsible for it.

We need to have the sense of urgency and share our testimony. We need to have eyes like Jesus—that whenever we see the lost, we will have compassion towards them. Compassion that will move us not to tolerate their sins, but to love them enough to know that they’re in desperate of Jesus, whether they admit it or not.

  • “Come on, it’s 2017 now.”

Sadly, some people think that the Bible is no longer relevant to this generation because the times have changed. However, the truth is—the wisdom of the Bible is timeless. Jesus said in Matthew 24:35 “Heaven and earth will pass away, but my words will never pass away.” He didn’t say that His Word is only as good as when we want to accept it. Then, when it’s too offensive for us, let’s consider it void. No.

Another truth is that: God’s standard will never change just because the norms had. God is Holy. (Isaiah 6:3 Holy, holy, holy is the Lord Almighty; the whole earth is full of his glory.) God is Holy in every aspect of His nature and character. Because of His Holiness, God cannot tolerate sin. So, no. He will never change His mind and He will never alter His Word just so the world could agree to Him. He doesn’t need people’s approval.

Another lie our society is trying to make us believe is that we can always compromise when it’s no longer convenient for us. However, Jesus never said that we should take up the cross only until so we want and we can just throw our convictions when it starts to get hard. No. Jesus wants us to follow Him and to walk with Him, from the beginning until the end. We are called to finish this race, to fix our eyes on Him, who is the author and perfecter of our faith. “And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.”

So, pick up your cross and follow Him. Regardless if you’re the only doing what is right. Regardless if you are being mocked and laughed at. Regardless if it’s painful. Regardless if the world will hate you. Jesus never said it’s going to be easy, but He promised that His grace is enough to sustain you and that He will be with you until the very end of age.

Come on, it’s 2017 now, they say. But let me tell you that more than two thousand years ago, Jesus died on the cross not for you to settle for a mediocre kind of ‘love.’ He shed His blood not for you to have a trial and error kind of relationship. He traded heaven for you to know that you are loved, you are forgiven, you are valued, you are restored, you are honored and you are precious in His eyes. And you don’t need someone else to validate your worth because Jesus already said so.

You are worth pursuing. You are worth loving. You are worth serving. You are worth dying for. You are worth committing. You are worth marrying. You are worth standing in the altar with. And if the society tries to tell you otherwise, do not believe it. Because who you are has already been declared when He said it is finished.


Edited: Jul 17, 2017; 4:51 pm.


120 thoughts on “You Are Worth Standing in the Altar With

  1. Im totally agree ♡ thank you for sharing this word. Spread the word of God. We don’t need to conform with the pattern of this world. Let be firm witg our faith no matter what happen.

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  2. Jesus died for us because he loves us. We are his children and no father would like to see his own children living to the norms of this world. We were set apart by our loving Father.

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  3. Good read but I feel that you are contradicting yourself. At one point you do not agree w/ people living before mirage and another, you agree. Like what you said, their business is non of your business yet you still stick your nose on it.
    Hypocrites. I can be very blunt but never sorry
    Let them live the way they wanna live, after all it’s their lives. Let us not dictate them and let them learn from their mistakes ( If it was ) let’s be neutral and not bash on people who are making adult decisions. Kthxbye

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    1. Just as what the article said: “This generation’s business is OUR business. We live in a dying world full of compromises—where sin is accepted just because everyone is doing it.” The article is set to address the audience not the person. It’s called rebuking not bashing

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  4. Great read! Again, just because it’s socially acceptable does not mean it’s right.And just because a movie star who wants to show her skin, and how helplessly in love she is with that one guy she never thought would fall for her, does not make her statements a matter of fact. What a waste to have these women think that compatibility depends on what you can get out of a relationship and not on the love that you’re supposed to be giving to the person without conditions. Such low morals we got in this generation.

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  5. Very well said, really Inspiring! Knowing about Jesus makes all the difference. Our perspective will change once we got to know Him. So we should seek Jesus first, and let Him fill our hearts with His love so we can learn to love unconditionally.

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  6. I totally agree with this. I got married at the age of 22, I’m now 23 and my husband is 37. We’re about to celebrate our 9th month as husband & wife this coming 22nd of July and I must say that being legally married is one of the best decisions I’ve made in my life.

    Tbh, in a sinful world we’re living in today, if Boet and I were not believers and followers of Jesus Christ, I knew for sure that we would rather live in together instead of waste our time and our money to get married. Why? Because we didn’t have the money and resources.

    However, God is so faithful to us. He sent people that speak the truth in our lives and we were encouraged to push for a simple wedding. After all, we really shouldn’t be investing in a one day event such as wedding – we should be investing in our marriage.

    We’ve decided to get married and commited to one another all because we wanted to honor God in our lives. You see, marriage is a sacred covenant with God. Marriage is a form of worship to Him.

    We’ve decided to get married because we wanted to invite God in our relationship. We are after his blessing for our relationship. And we know that our marriage will last forever because Jesus Christ is the center of it. ❤

    Ecclesiastes 4:9 Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. 10 If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. 11 Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? 12 A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.

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  7. I am a catholic and I believe in the sanctity of marriage. I admire young people like you who still stand for what is right. I would like to say that values, no matter what era, remain to the same.

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  8. This is a wake up call to all those who are in a relationship. Esp. the teens and those on their 20s. Making God their Center. Making God the center of everything.

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    1. I’m not throwing stones at anyone. Neither am I judging the person. What I’m only doing is standing on the Word of God and reminding everyone of their worth in the eyes of Jesus. That as we see how much He loves us, then we will have a repentant heart and turn back to God.

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  9. I agree. Converted to be a Christian just last year. Know who really is and what He has done just lasy year. My daughter, 6 years old. You have a very good point (wc I am so ashamed of right now). Solo parent ans still struggling with relationships, why? You pointed it out, Im afraid of commitment, why? You said it all.
    Since we’re talking about being worthy, am I not qualified?

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    1. Hi, Safiya. I believe that none of us is worthy of God’s love. WE ARE ALL SINNERS, and there’s nothing we can do to qualify to God’s standards. If we are talking about qualifications” we will really fall short.
      HOWEVER, the good news is Jesus died on the cross for us, undeserving people. Because of what He did on the cross, He made a way for us to be reconciled with the Father. And if you have accepted Jesus as your personal Lord and Savior, you have been given a second chance. You are now restored. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!”
      Because of Jesus’ finished work on the cross, we can start again. We are redeemed, restored and forgiven.
      So, Ms. Safiya, no matter what your failures are in the past, they are already gone and you are a new creation when you accepted Christ. You are freed! So, continue to grow in your love with the Lord. Ask Him to come and change your heart and for you to get to know Him more.
      I pray that you and your daughter will have a blessed life! God loves you both. ❤

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  10. Well said and on point. However, I just wish that society wouldn’t judge them harshly and would break it to her gently with love and compassion. There are proper and appropriate ways to correct them. If Jesus was here, I wonder what He would do and say. Just as He saved the adultress from being stoned, instead of condemning her, Jesus showed love, compassion and forgiveness. I hope all Christians would be forgiving of her. I think the best way to deal with this it to pray for the couple. That they may be enlightened and convicted to do the right thing. If they dont know yet Christ, then how can they be convinced to follow Christ when Christians themselves are the first to condemn them? It says in Galatians 6:1 “Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual (the Chtistians) should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted.” 2 Timothy 4:2 says “Preach the word, be ready in season and out of season, reprove, rebuke, and exhort, with COMPLETE PATIENCE and UNDERSTANDING.”
    Yes, we Christians have the responsibility to uphold our morals and values but we also have the responsibility to bring the sinners to Christ and to show them the love of God.

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  11. Praise God for people like you who really stands for God and his Words! I am a mother of 4, 3 daughters and a son…my 2 elder daughters are married already and me and my husband had been married for 32 yrs., we had a simple Christian wedding back then and our relationship as husband and wife grow stronger as we also mature in Christ…getting married is a commitment that both partners must agree, we must put Christ as the center of our relationship relationship lasts by itself…every person has different traits,characters,upbringing,etc, and you can discover all of that in your husband/wife after marriage, but because you love your husband/wife, you will begin to accept him/her and respect your partner…the marriage vows says, “for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, till death do us part” is having a responsibility for your betterhalf and by it,we can be mature…our society nowadays doesn’t want responsibility,bec.if they do, there will be no broken families, single parents,etc. We must be aware of what’s going on and we have to stand for the truth, for the Word of God! Our youth are misled by the examples of their favorite stars who themselves do not know that their lifestyles are not accepted by God…as I always tell my children the Word of God, I would like it also to share it to all who can read it; Romans 12:2 says, “Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is- his good, pleasing and perfect will.”

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  12. “If you earn enough, then I’ll marry you.” I struggle with this…Is it selfish to want my boyfriend to have a better financial standing before we can marry?


    1. Hi, Rei. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to have a better financial standing before getting married. I believe that we should plan for our future and we should save up. Find a better paying job, etc. However, just remind yourself that there is no such thing as financial stability. Only financial responsibility. Kasi if you’re looking for stability, hindi mo mahahanap yun. Finances will fail at some point. Sometimes, it seems like what we have on the bank is not enough.
      This is my encouragement, though. Walk on water! Meaning, have faith! I believe that God is faithful in every season that we have and that He will never stop pouring out His blessing to you. If you really want to commit to this relationship, save up now. Know your financial standing. Then, kapag kakasal na kayo, okay lang na di masyadong magarbo ang kasal. Mag-save kayo para sa married life niyo, wag lang sa wedding. Money is important, yes. Pero sana wag lang ito yung maging primary reason para hindi kayo mag-step out. Believe me, God will surprise you.

      PS: I’m not discounting the importance of preparing financially. I am highly encouraging the both of you to really sit down and talk about it. But the main point of this is, believe for miracles! God is a good provider and your family (yieee, soon!) will never lack in anything. Basta faith tapos samahan niyo ng hardwork lang at pagtitipid! :))

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  13. Thanks for sharing. This is an eye opener for me. I definitely agree with your point of living in but for me to have no hassles I’ll prefer to be silent because “it’s none of my business” type ako which makes me accountable for people that I know doing this.
    We christian as the salt and light of this world should do our responsibility not just watching how people conforming to the pattern of this world.


    1. Hi. We Christians are called to be the salt and light of the world. But if we continue to be silent, we will lose our saltiness. It says in His Word that we are the light of the world. A city on the hill that cannot be hidden. You are called to lead. You are called to let your light shine and remind people of their value in Christ. If you don’t share the gospel and rebuke people because it’s a hassle, then why do you call Him, Lord, Lord, if you do not do what He says? Feed his flock.


    2. You know, the gospel will bring us inconvenience. You will need to speak up and share His Word. Pero like what I said, if you don’t care about other people because it’s none of your business, then you are not becoming compassionate. The world is dying because some people just don’t care. Let’s encourage everyone to share the gospel and be more compassionate to people.


  14. When I got married, I promised God that I would put up with worse until death. Those are the three words that matter: God, worse, death. Any fool can promise (to himself) that he will put up with the good stuff for five minutes.

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  15. True. All mistakes that we have done while we still leaving in this world, can overcome by putting our self into a decisions to correct all those mistakes. As God’s want us to walk into his word and he will assure you that you will be heading on the right path. God Bless You for this wonderful word. We still need to brought this to our next generations.


  16. I couldn’t agree more of this! It’s a major cringe worthy when someone claims he/she is a Christian and believes in the word of God but can’t accept the truth because he/she is living a lifestyle that is socially acceptable. I hope this one shall serve as anem eye opener to anyone who agrees that living in together when their partner is part of the relationship. There’s a lot of ways you can know more about your partner, not living in and having sex outside of the marriage.


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